Don’t call and text and call and text to try to get an answer. If he/she isn’t answering, THAT’S your answer. Even though it’s hard, accept it and STOP. Turn your phone off, put it away. Go do something to distract yourself. Give it one hour, usually after an hour that strong urge will pass and you can be more rational. Write out your feelings and thoughts in a journal if you need to get them out.

Don’t go through their stuff, their phone, room, wallet, purse, car, pockets. etc. If you feel you need to do this you probably have the answer to the question you’re trying to find “proof” of. , This isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship and you should consider ending it. If it’s your own insecurities, deal with that without making a bigger issue by showing your lack of trust.

Don’t beg anyone to spend time with you. Ask yourself why you would want to spend time with someone that has to be “forced” or “guilted” into it? You’re awesome and worth spending time with. If they don’t see that then find someone who does.

Don’t make someone else responsible for your happiness. This is a lot to put on another person and ends up being emotionally draining for them. This isn’t Disney, no prince/princess is coming to fulfill all your dreams. You’re responsible for your own happiness. If you’re in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy then what can YOU do?

Don’t ditch all your friends, family or own interests for someone else. In a healthy relationship there should a balance with how much time you devote to someone. Also, in a healthy relationship, you should be able to blend them into your life. If you feel a pull to ditch everyone to only be with them, that’s a warning sign. A good partner encourages your other relationships and interests.

Don’t play mind games, lie or manipulate to get what you want. If you feel you need to do these things you should ask yourself why? No one likes to be manipulated. Learn healthy ways to ask for what you want or need.

Don’t threaten someone to stay with you. Again, why do you want to be with someone you have to threaten in order to get your needs met? This includes threats of harming self, destroying property, telling secrets, sharing private photos, etc.

Don’t be needy, whiney and/or clingy. Let him/her spend time with their friends, doing things they enjoy without you. Give them a chance to miss you. If you’re feeling like you need some extra love, ask your friends to come eat ice cream and watch sappy movies with you, call your grandma and get some grandma love, or ask your mom to make your favorite childhood treat. Get your nails done if you need some pampering.

Don’t chase or pursue. Okay, there is a fine line here between making sure they know you’re interested and being annoying. Go for balance. Give as much as you’re getting, but not more. DEFINITELY don’t chase them if they’re running the other direction! Don’t be the one doing all the work in the relationship. Give the other person a chance to do some of the pursuing. We all appreciate things we had to work a little for.

Don’t stay with someone who is disrespectful, rude, or abusive. You deserve better than to be lied to, cheated on, called names, or physically threatened or assaulted. If they’re into this sort of behavior, they’re not going to change. Stop making excuses for them, everyone knows the truth anyway. You’re better off single.